A soul mate is someone we feel a deep and profound connection to. Someone with whom we feel completely ourselves with. Someone that we love unconditionally and they love us unconditionally. And without trying to sound too sentimental, someone who completes us.

I believe everyone has a soul mate, and with a little focused time and energy everyone can find theirs. While most people think of a soul mate in romantic terms, I also believe that there are other kinds of soul mate relationships. For instance, look at the friendship and connection that Oprah and Gayle King share. I would definitely call that a soul mates relationship. I also believe you can have pets that connect with you on such a deep level that they deserve to be called soul mates.

In the movie "Shall We Dance?" with Richard Gere & Susan Sarandon there is a terrific scene where Sarandon's character is talking about why we would want a her soul mate relationship and says:

"We need a witness to our lives. There's a billion people on the planet... I mean, what does any one life really mean? But in a marriage, you're promising to care about everything. The good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things... all of it, all of the time, every day. You're saying 'Your life will not go unnoticed because I will notice it. Your life will not go un-witnessed because I will be your witness'."

That's what a soul mate is.

You can have more than one soul mate in a lifetime but not necessarily at the same time. My mother-in-law, Peggy, is a good example of this. She was happily married for 55 years. After her husband died she was sure she would spend the rest of her life alone...then last year she began setting the intention for a companion. An internet-savvy friend of hers logged on to www.match.com and found a potential date for Peggy with a retired lawyer named John who had also enjoyed a fifty-year plus marriage until his wife died. Peggy and John met nine months ago, sparks flew and they are now in a deeply committed, loving relationship. By the way, she is 80 and he is 83!

Even though it didn't happen for me, either, until I was in my mid-forties, I never gave up hope on finding mine. I believe that having love in our lives is as natural as having air to breathe and water to drink. If you are willing to clear the clutter from your heart, mind and home, love can be yours!

One of the most common reasons people struggle with finding love is that after a few bad relationships, some people unconsciously shut down and give up. They no longer believe the right person is out there for them and while one part of them is saying "YES, I want a relationship", the other part is saying "NO! I'm afraid to get hurt again". A big part of manifesting love is preparing you by overcoming the emotional wounds and baggage that we all have.

Once you've done that, a soul mate can be yours.