Any time that you feel you lack confidence you are not alone.

Yet it is important to recognizethat there are ways that you can overcome this obstacle and gain confidence.

Where you would gain more confidence in social situations, when making an important presentation, when you are going for a job interview or wanting to be more confident for your own peace of mind.

It is possible for you to gain more confidence and become that confident person that you so long wanted to become in any setting.

Below is a method that you can use to overcome that challenge. It is easy to apply in all areas of your life.

Make it a point now to step out of your comfort zone and begin to see and acknowledge a new you.

It is crucial that you have made that fundamental decision that you are totally dedicated to make that work.

You must be totally decisive that you do want to improve on your confidence. That you are willing to do all that it takes to let go of the obstacles that have been robbing you of a happy life.

Make that decision now to gain more confidence.

If at first you are scared, that's fine. It's normal. It happens. Always remember that the next time you challenge your lack of confidence you do so with less fear. And in good time this fear will have a less hold over you.

And as your determination gains momentum, the fear that once limited you will have weakened, and you will be able to face many more challenges that you wouldn't usually handle or face.

You will notice you are gradually gaining more and more confidence.

Here are the 6 steps that you can apply today:
1. Prior to an event where you feel you would like to be more confident, write down exactly what it is that is making you uneasy about it.

Get a sheet of paper and divide it down the middle into two columns. In one column, jot down all the reasons why you are uneasy about that event; why you are lacking confidence.

Be as open as you possibly can. The longer the list the better.

2. Once completed, in the other column, write down how you would like to feel for each reason why you think you feel you lack confidence. Write down the first thought that comes to mind.

3. Now each day, as far in advance of this event as possible, decide on one obstacle with its counter feeling that you would like to tackle today.

Then find a quiet place where you will not be disturbed for approximately ten to fifteen minutes.

4. Sit back or lie down and relax. Remind yourself of the way you want to feel and close your eyes. Visualise how you would like to perform.

See yourself clearly and vividly doing what it is that you want. Engage your feelings. The more emotional you get, the more beneficial this will be.

Picture yourself doing exactly what you want to do.

Imagine that you have all the confidence that you could ever want.

5. Feel the confidence spread all over your body. Sense it as it gains power. Take your time. No rush. Feel the emotions throughout your body.

6. After ten to fifteen minutes, a few seconds into your peak state (before your feelings of high confidence begin to slide), open your eyes and with passion say out loud (if possible) "Yes, thats me."

Thats it. Youre done.
As the days go by before that event, continue to work down your whole list. Imagineyou have unstoppable confidence.

As the event draws nearer, you will feel your are becoming more confident and ready to take on whatever comes with that event.

And on the day of the event, you will find that you are eager, confident and ready to get started.

You will give a presence of confidence that you thought you never had.

Everyone will notice how you radiate confidence and courage.

The good news is that you can use this method on anything that worries you.

You can use it for any event where you sense you lack confidence; any situation where you want more confidence. This method is there for your use in any way that you can creatively use it for.

Believe me, its tremendously powerful.

Always begin with making a list of what makes you anxious and find its opposite feeling and visualise how you want to act and feel.

Remember to feel it and see it with as much emotion and clarity as you can.

Believe in this process and you will undoubtedly reap all the benefits.

It is vital to note here that repetition is the mother of all skill.

Repeat the visualisation method as often as possible. In fact, the more the better. This is how the mind works.

Repeat, repeat and repeat until you achieve the results you are after. Keep at it. Never quit. Always remember: Success is just around the corner.

Hani Al-Qasem is the co-author of "Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps." For more information on how to have self-confidence to lead a more fulfilling life, be sure to read the free e-book Self-Confidence Building In 7 Steps, at: http://www.free-self-confidence.com and achieve all that you want. See All articles From Author Tags:

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