Women are high on emotional and sensitive plane while guys, and on a first date, may be looking for a practical viewpoint which may flop while attracting women. This feature brushes up on some basic dating tips for guys to attract women. Women are seeking a man who is secure with himself, and is able to provide it to her consistently. These men reflect it with everything they do they always seem to be in control, they are sensitive to the needs of the moment, they rise to the occasion, they have a focused purpose in their life, and are comfortable in their own skin.

Women can be a finnicky bunch. Some hold the line, some move the line, some don’t believe in any line. Women love a bit of chivalry every now and then. Do don’t forget to open the restaurant door when she enters. Women are not going to be attracted to guys that swarm them from the start. But at the same time they want somebody who is showing that they are confident and curteous.

Women always love men with great sense of humor. Thus, humor is a great dating tip for men. Women hate when men ask for their number, and then they never call. Once you do that, its pretty much over for you. Women are always looking to men to get a sense of reality.

Women love funny men. Women seeking dating tips are very often looking for answers on superficial things. Although women are not necessarily superficial themselves, a woman is more likely to be overly concerned with what to wear and what kind of hairstyle to sport. Women love charm, so long as it is natural, cool and unpretentious. Charm is good manners.

Women put a high value on communication that goes beyond words, and if you focus on impressing, talking and showing yourself in the best light, you may not be focusing on her. Eye contact assures her that she has your undivided attention – something every woman wants on a date. Women have an overblown reputation for being emotional, but we do tend to think we are more emotional than men. However, be careful not to offend us by disregarding our emotions. Women do not like to be treated like meat. That should be a given but sometimes men do not realize they are treating them like that.

Women like a challenge as much as men. Therefore, its not necessary to work hard to show her just how much you like her. Women notice your appearance, they judge it instantly, and unlike your friends, they can tell if something doesn’t match, is out of place, or is just plain ugly. Sometimes a woman will say that shoes are the most important thing in a man - yes, above eyes, smile, muscles, and anything else are your shoes! (this could be nerves!!) lol

Girls like to chat with men who are intelligent and quick-witted. Make sure you discuss about exciting topics with her. Girls don’t like a guy to come up to them and ask them out right away. Show some interest in her first. Don’t, for example, spend your date talking about your ex and your other dates, unless this is done humorously. Don’t be smarmy either and gush with empty compliments. Lots of men think they can handle themselves pretty well on a date - and lots of them would be wrong. Ive been there and done that…but have you really?..

Start listening and stop talking. Keep your date interested but don’t turn into a one man entertainer. Creating this air of mystery will keep the ‘ball in your court’ so you can decide whether this person is worth dating again or not. Most of all, enjoy the air of mystery you create and have fun with your dating.

Women are generally a whole lot deeper than men That’s the good news. However, it is about something you’re doing or not doing to attract women. Women are always looking to men to get a sense of reality. Women are the cleaner of the species and will partly judge you on how hygienic you are. After all, you would be appalled if she turned up for the date looking like a mutt .

Ask questions and make sure you are satisfied with the answers. Trust your instincts, move cautiously and be selective. Ask her questions, but more importantly listen to what she has to say. A woman is attracted to a man who is genuinely interested in hearing what she has to say. Asking her what her passions are outside of the workplace will give you a better idea of her personality, rather than her resume. Make sure to really listen to her response and ask open-ended questions to show youre interested in what shes saying.

Confident people attract other confident people. Confidence will always win the girl, although being arrogant won’t, so be careful not to cross the line. Confidence is about being comfortable with who you are and where you are going and is radiates from anyone who has it so work on yours and you’ll be guaranteed success!

Remember… there’s a difference between dating tips for men that will get you laid and dating tips for men that will get you love. These tips apply to the latter…. lol

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Discover how some men can walk up to any beautiful woman and always walk away with her phone number!!

If you have trouble meeting women, feel overwhelmed when talking to them…or just want to gain the confidence to be able to approach and date any woman that you want and have her absolutely adore you, then this is the most important letter you will ever read…

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Miz Helena is an avid writer of self improvement and lifestyle articles and is co-owner of Abundant World Publications which is part of a vast network of quality and affordable lifestyle ebooks and audios

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How many times have you said this and REALLY MEANT IT?

I’m guessing not often.. even if we are really really pissed off.. given a chance to calm down we often regret what we said.. true?

we often say this in defense to our true feelings.. to mask the pain and hurt, to counteract rejection… or for a number of other situations we find ourselves in. We are not being honest with ourselves in the heat of the moment and would probably mouth off a few other untruths along with it… but what message does this send to your partner?.. well.. confusion and mixed messages.. trying to work out if you were being truthful or not, they start to imagine the worst and perhaps think you don’t care..

In Don Miguel Ruiz’s book “The Four Agreements” the first agreement is “be impeccable with your word” in other words.. speak with sincerity.. say only what you mean..

Being impeccable also means being conscious of what you say and the motive behind it when your emo triggers are tested. Have you ever said something that you really didn’t mean? As soon as it left your mouth, you wished you could take it back and burn it?

Here are 3 tips to help you say what you mean and mean what you say:

- respite for thought. step back momentarily and think about your words, however this is done to make sure YOU are wanting to say what you mean, not what you want the other person to hear. Saying what you mean is important for keeping communication lines open and encouraging the flow of communication. We often say what the other person wants to hear for fear of hurting them or making out your something your not. This is not honesty!! Why should we think our words will hurt? This is only a reflection of what you think not the other person. So dont judge someones reactions based upon what yours are.

- keep to the point. Dont drag up events of last week, last year or even yesterday. Keep discussion to what the current topic is. Dont let things fester, deal with issues as they arise and then let them go. This will avoid the situation exploding with frustration and spewing out last months garbage.

- watch your tone. You should speak to others as you wish them to speak to you, without sarcasm, hostility or arrogance. Speak up by all means but not so loud that you come across as being aggressive. Speak with authority and clarity and be direct. Your words will have meaning when you can be decisive and conclusive.

Remember, communication is not the same as just chatting or writing, effective communication can only occur when there is total understanding of everyone involved.

Men and women do speak different languages. Men tend to be more direct whereas women can be a little more subtle, leaving hints instead. So when she clams up and says “im not angry” it usually means she is. She may feel he should know how shes feeling without having to reveal the fact. This can be detrimental in figuring out what the other person really means. So what to do?

Well the most obvious thing is to sit them down and ASK them directly, keeping in mind the 3 points we just discussed. Ask open ended questions to encourage them to open up, and then finally ask what is the best thing for me to do to avoid this from happening again? This will lead to a better understanding of how to improve the situation.

If your message is anything other than simple and straightforward, break it down and try again. You may be surprised at how much more cooperative your partner is when he or she actually knows what you want.

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Miz Helena is an avid writer of self improvement and lifestyle articles and is co-owner of Abundant World Publications which is part of a vast network of quality and affordable lifestyle ebooks and audios

A divorce can be a very painful event for women. Women are usually very family orientated, devoting their time to raising the children, supporting their partners, and maintaining the home, usually sacrificing her own career and goals for the sake of the family, so its no wonder when she finds herself in the middle of divorce proceedings, it can really throw her life into total disarray. Her future now seems bleak, and the security she once felt is shattered. This can lead to feelings of inadequacy, grief, loss, and despondency.

However much sadness this brings, there are ways that can help you regain your life back and give you the confidence to look to the future with a more optimistic attitude. This article is devoted to help you realise your strengths, overcome your grief and move forward.

Emotional Healing

1) Give yourself time to heal. Time really becomes your best friend in times of adversity, a time to regroup, prioritise, and discover a few truths. Don’t be afraid to cry if you feel like it. Let it pour out, vent, beat up your pillow, throw darts onto his picture, whatever it takes to get it out, DO IT!

2) Keep up with your favourite hobbies and interests, or discover a few new ones. Indulging in any enjoyable activity helps to regain your focus, develop your talents and help you to forget your worries. Spend an afternoon walking around your neighbourhood, go to a art galleria, museum, draw, paint, write, read whatever you enjoy. Pay attention to the feeling it gives you, and relish in it. You need more of it.

3) Keep your friends close. Friends can be wonderful in times of sorrow, for a shoulder to cry on, an open heart to heart chat and friendly advise. If you don’t feel comfortable talking to people that are closest to you a good counsellor can be a healthy alternative. A good counsellor can help you explore your deeper feelings, bring forth any feelings of resentment you hold and help you release them, give you ways you can cope with your overwhelming feelings of despair and guide you on a recovery path.

4) Stop Laying The Blame. Let it go!! Whatever is in the past, let it remain there. Look forward to the new day. Any mistakes can be learnt from and be seen as a learning experience. Be kind to yourself. Learn to laugh at your shortcomings and those of others.

5) Keep a diary and make entries into it everyday. This is an important part of the healing process. To reflect, grow and move forward, to identify your emotions and make dealing with the pain a little easier. Make a weekly summary and reflect upon your achievements, aspirations, and to commence your future goal planning.

Learning To Become Independent

1) Look for work, or go back to study. This not only fills in the time, but it helps you gain financial independence. Learning to stand on your own two feet after a divorce is vitally important and one that gives you immense satisfaction. You also become a role model for your kids that projects strength and commitment.

2) Keep your dating options open. There will come a time when you will feel you want to start seeing new people. This can take a while, especially if your break-up was bitter, but eventually it will be inevitable. Start with group dates. Don’t reject a group outings invitation, you need social interaction to stay in touch and the opportunity to meet others. This will become easier to manage with time. After a while, you will probably realise why you didn’t do it sooner. Another positive PLUS!!

3) Rearrange The Furniture! Im serious, a change they say is as good as a holiday. Rearrange your bedroom, change it completely! Paint the walls, add a fresh bouquet of flowers, dress up the bed with your personal favourite items, hang exquisite art on the walls, burn incense or candles. Make it scream you!

4) Come Up With A Mantra. Make positive affirmations daily. Ive just come up with a good one. Look into the mirror and repeat as often as possible.

“My life is complete. I am a woman that has a lot to contribute and offer. I love myself and have a high expectations. I will not allow myself to be disrespected or abused. Life is so precious. I have clear defined goals. I will make my life exciting, full and rewarding. I am the centre of my universe. I will do whatever it takes to live a fulfilling quality of life. Nothing is impossible for me. I possess strength, character and courage. I am my own person.”

Powerful huh? Yes indeed.

Remember, your problems do not begin with divorce. In fact, it gives way to new challenges and opens up a whole new learning world. Take small steps, fight it out, laugh, be kind to yourself, tackle every problem in stride. You will soon see your happiness return and your problems become a thing of the past, and your success story will be an inspiration for all. All power to you!!

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Miz Helena is an avid writer of self improvement and lifestyle articles and is co-owner of Abundant World Publications which is part of a vast network of quality and affordable lifestyle ebooks and audios

Feeling full of regret, boredom and frustration? Redirect your focus and decide what goals you want to achieve. Feel good about it and draw positive energy. Think about how you can leverage those accomplishments to take your career motivation forward in a good way.

Goals are extremely important. As a matter of fact, without goals, we will not achieve success. Goals are important because they never really end if you don’t want them to. You can keep making adjustments to a goal that can fit anyone in any stage.

Success is really all about motivation . But where should your motivation come from? Success at anything important means change, it means becoming someone different, it means growing as a person — and all that stuff is really, really hard. Futzing around, on the other hand, rarely accomplishes anything important, so I can stay comfortably me .

BELIEF is the ingredient that creates MOTIVATION. MOTIVATION is the drive that leads us to DECISION. Belief systems are based in our unconscious, which is like a computer.. Successful people make choices. Or more accurately, successful people realize that every action involves a choice Inspiration, for me, comes from others who have achieved what I want to achieve, or who are currently doing it. I read other blogs, books, magazines.

Asking the right questions is more important than answers; the journey is what is most important. The best practices is to learn triumphs and failures through others. Ask for feedback and then use it to your advantage. Focusing on the progress made rather than the occasional misstep will put you in a better frame of mind to keep your goals in mind. Visualization and positive thinking shouldn’t be underestimated; the power of keeping an optimistic attitude can take you far.

Along with the journey can come boredom, frustration, and discouragement. I don’t know about any of you, but there are times when I definitely have had my “Are we there yet?” moments!   Rather than thinking about quiting, think about how you can practise better. Think about how you can do things even better. Rather, set a more reasonable initial goal that you know you can reach. Once you have reached it, you can always set a new goal. Rather than chronological, try a thematic approach… Visualise it !!  Start to really visualise yourself with your goals achieved. Start with one thing, and make it a habit.

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Miz Helena is an avid writer of self improvement and lifestyle articles and is co-owner of Abundant World Publications which is part of a vast network of quality and affordable lifestyle ebooks and audios.

A first date is always fraught with uncertainties you are worried about making a good first impression, wondering what he ll think of you, and what planet you are from. Don’t sit and wait for the phone to ring if you want to go out, its not uncommon that uncertainty can follow even the best date, especially if you wanted to make a great impression. Don’t worry so much about how you look is another dating tip for women who can agonize over their appearance, if you feel comfortable then it shows. No one is perfect and every woman who agonizes over the tiniest flaw in her own appearance, will usually notice it isn’t even remotely visible to their date.

Women put a lot of thought into their first date outfit — a lot. Heck, they probably even went out and bought a whole new ensemble for the occasion. Women always look into the eyes of men so guys try to let her see the inner you. Men are little boys that are shy at talking to women because they just don’t understand them so they are really the ones that are nervous so ladies understand that you got to make them feel at ease. Women, however, are not as forgiving; only 42% would attempt a repeat date in the same situation.

First date conversations are like any other dating conversations really only you tend to put more pressure on yourself because you feel like there’s more at stake if you don’t make a good first impression. You need to know that conversation is a critical part of getting second dates. First date conversations don’t have to feel like the last leg of a 5K marathon though. All it takes to make a conversation flow is a little practice and a few decent starters.

A word of warning girls.. NEVER EVER talk about your last boyfriend, fiancée or husband on the first date. Talking about anything emotionally intimate, such as why you broke up with the ex, is fatal. This sort of topic can trigge resentment which will be apparent to your date and distract from the enjoyment both of you should be experiencing. Men immediately think one of two things if you talk about your ex during a date.

1) Shes comparing …
2) You have a bad track record.. ooops..

Don’t be swept off your feet by the excitement of the moment. Taking things slowly will keep you safe from being hurt if the guy is not really what you expected him to be.

Here are some fun things you can talk about…Talk about how a super model is WAY too skinny, or how Ozzy has killed all his brain cells and what a shame it is that he’s on TV broadcasting it to millions of viewers. Make fun of Mariah Carey for gaining weight, being put in the loony bin, and putting out a sucky movie. I know this kind of talk can seem a little lame, but throwing in the humour can really diffuse tense, awkward first date vibes.. and will relax you enough for when you want to move onto the more in depth getting-to-know-him chat. Talk about your likes, ambition, occupation, studies and home life on neutral ground. This will win you favor with your date and perhaps take the chat to the next level. Talking about the present is a great icebreaker for many reasons, not the least being you don’t want to start raking up the past with someone you hardly know.

Talk about things he’s probably never heard of before. Make him feel like he’s never met anyone else like you. Talk about what is on TV, an interesting article you read in the paper, a new clothing store that opened at the mall, a new music video.. anything! You should be able to talk about random meaningless stuff for hours. Talk about whatever you’re comfortable with. If you’re really a KKK member, talk about your last clan meeting!!!! LOL…

Talking about where you would like to travel can be a great way to get to know someone, and since you are only limited by your imagination, it doesnt matter if youve never travelled out of state. Talk about your present jobs and how happy or discontented you are with your career. Along that line you can also talk about your past schools and funny experiences you might want to share.

Ask him what you want to know. Be aware of whether he asks questions or if hes tuned out and is staring at your chest. Ask about their hobbies, work and also about their journey to the date. Always throw in some comments or follow-up questions to keep the conversation moving forward.

Listen more than you talk. Women like to talk, usually more than men, so ask some questions and then listen. Listening actively is a combination of body language and responses to your partner’s words that involves the listener in what the speaker is saying, without allowing the listener to take over the conversation. When you want your date to know that you are listening to him, use body language that shows that you are listening. Laughter, reactions, smiling, and recalling conversation are all signs you are into it!

Spending just twenty minutes brushing up on news and gossip can really make your conversation shine. Browse through a newspaper, cycle through your online news sources, or listen to the radio on your way home from work. Spending just twenty minutes brushing up on news and gossip can really make your conversation shine. Browse through a newspaper, cycle through your online news sources, or listen to the radio on your way home from work.

Asking the question, “If you could change anything about yourself, what would it be?”.can also be an excellent thermostat to measure a person’s self-confidence and humility. It can be refreshing to hear someone note their flaws, and can put you at ease by reminding you again that no one is perfect.. be prepared for hours of fun as you discover things in him that you probably feel the same over..

Ask him questions and get him talking about himself until you find something that you both do and enjoy. The right mix of conversation on a first date can actually become the foundation to something more.

Noticing first date etitiquette is particulary important as well.. someone who is adverse to trying new things at the table may be adverse to trying new things in other places (the bedroom being only one of them). Someone who says they would love to go snorkeling off a boat might not be the same person who loves to tour the inside of museums. Ask what kinds of fun things they do and how they’d like to spend their time off. Expect the unexpected to happen. The weather may change anytime and your favorite restaurant may close for renovations, so expect to have fun on your first date. Be positive, optimistic, and focused on having a good time, even if your date is not what you’re looking for.

Remember, practice, practice, practice. You can practice these with friends, with work colleagues, with family. Remember, meeting a potential love interest for the first time should be a happy social occasion, a chance to begin getting to know someone, and to break the ice.

men are suckers for women who remember details…trust me. so have a good time and relax.

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Miz Helena is an avid writer of self improvement and lifestyle articles and is co-owner of Abundant World Publications which is part of a vast network of quality and affordable lifestyle ebooks and audios

For decades, women earning their status in workplaces is becoming one of the most common news.. since early 1990’s, the growing number of career women has been shockingly shooting statistics up… some were pleased while there were those who were apprehensive.

It’s funny because a hundred years ago, this may not even be thinkable…. who ever knew that women who were dressed up like dolls and trained to be contented goddesses of the home would struggle to get out of the norm? Who ever thought that she would be able to lead a nation? Way back, women were loveable puppets… experiences through time, however, revolutionized the way people think… educated women become more aware of their rights and abilities… nowadays, women are lovingly embracing their responsibilities not just in the home but also in the society… i do think that this movement is making the world a better place… so, what’s the noise all about? We are not here to replace men but to compliment them as always.

There are now more and more mothers who are going out of their homes and helping their husbands create financial stability… some are single moms needing to earn a living. Others just enjoy career stability and recognition.

Although the figures may have initially put men in an awkward state perceiving the opposite sex as competition, however, nowadays, men are becoming more appreciative and accepting of what’s going on. To evidence this, a few shifts in home routine have taken place such as reallocation of household chores, less personal motherly attendance have paved husbands a chance to substitute; and mothers now take part in the decisions more than before.

A successful woman did not become a superstar overnight! She suffers and endures a few work-related issues left and right… she recurrently battles with machismo once in a while and maybe this is something she can never get rid of.. around the globe and anytime, harassment and violence are major problems that come her way… she is prone to a lot of mishaps… however, she keeps on.

She keeps on and people have to give her credit for that… let’s be frank.. women are closing the gender gaps as time goes by… she is redefining her success from homemaker to associate to corporate executive where she levels with if not overpowers men in achievements… do these facts make men irritable?

At some point it did, maybe it still does to a few. But there are also others who are not really bothered by such transformation… she still remains to be an unwavering emblem of beauty…she still has her grace and add to that a glowing confidence to voice out what she believes in this time… that doesn’t make her less of a person… the evolution that a woman faces in her social and career life did not only make the world a better place but also has made her more fulfilled as a person. Who dares to take that away from her? I wouldn’t.

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Miz Helena is an avid writer of lifestyle articles and is co-owner of Abundant World Publications which is part of a vast network of quality and affordable self improvement and lifestyle audios and ebooks

A word of caution: A relationship that is boring (adj. <dull, unexciting, flat, tedious>) are symptoms that it is about to fail… but it neednt spell the end.. with a lil conscious effort.. we can revive even the most stale partnerships..

Men and women in relationships share proven and effective perks they do to stay in love and keep their partners from looking the other way and possibly straying.

1. Send your woman or man roses on special occasions and when they least expect it… gone are the days that men are the only ones who send their partners flowers…. women have become creative and don’t mind sending their men roses too… men might be taken by surprise but they love it.
2. Whisper sweet nothings. Communicate! Saying how much you appreciate your partner, sharing kinky thoughts and complimenting your lover on what she/he does may seem small but these are important ways that keep the romance alive… stop saying them and she/he will think you don’t care.
3. Support each other. Partners who appreciate and support each other in their decisions and endeavors are most likely to last the longest.. be it in work or creativity or decision making.. showing support is vitally important.. it shows you are respectful and sincere.. and that goes a long way in improving and keeping a relationship fresh..
4. Don’t forget important dates. It may be a birthday, Valentines Day or Christmas… especially never forget your anniversary! Each time, treat your loved one special.. you dont even have to wait for that special date.. occasional cute surprizes are always nice.. and enjoy the responsiveness that follows !!
5. Always give each other a kiss. Actions speak louder than words! A kiss means more than a hug.. so kiss your partner goodbye before you walk out that door… a goodnight kiss is also very loving… and a passionate kiss even says a whole lot more.. especially when you grab her out of the blue and show some of that hot passion!!
6. Tell her you want her. It’s not enough to say you love her… sometimes.. words become so ordinary that women gauge from actions and not from what they hear… having a relationship is more than love… in fact, let’s be honest and say that it is not enough to love! Pick up your basket and put in not just love but also lust, excitement, and openness… yes, it is important that you make each other crazy… when you lose that interest, your better half would surely notice!
7. Change your routine once in a while. If one becomes predictable, there is nothing to expect. Surprise your partner and she will always remember you… make or do something special… do something unique… go somewhere that you haven’t gone before as a couple… if you have children, spend vacations with and without them… if you are tight on your budget, no worries… it doesn’t have to be expensive, just exciting and adventurous!
8. Hold hands. Whether be in public or at home watching television, hold hands… nothing beats a silent, warm physical connection.. plan a surprize at home and the minute he walks thru the door.. sit him down.. pour him a drink and get cozy !!.. talk about your day.. fun stuff.. offer him a relaxing body massage.. dim the lights.. and enjoy!!
9. Dress up and date. Pick up those sexy shoes, dress and lingerie when you date.. its all about confidence.. when you feel good about yourself.. you will seem sexier.. responsive and irrisistable !! a man, on the other hand, should not quit courting her or playing romantic even after ten or so years of marriage.
10. Share a secret that only your partner knows. It doesn’t matter what it is about… it may be something personal, sensitive or kinky… sharing codes is not only exciting but also builds a strong bond between you two… and he may be surprized to learn a thing or two about what you desire !!

These tips may not sound too easy especially when you are not used to them… but a change in how you treat your mate by applying some of these tips can be a big leap for you.. your relationship does not have to end in a tragedy… take these tips to heart and read up on more… and when you do, be prepared for a racy.. sexy adventure!

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Miz Helena is an avid writer of lifestyle articles and is co-owner of Abundant World Publications which is part of a vast network of quality and affordable self improvement and lifestyle audios and ebooks

The number one reason guys and girls have about lack of dating is fear of rejection. “I don’t really look that good.” Or “Girls don’t like me.” are quick replies defensively blurted out when asked why they have been single for a long time. Some even say “It’s my choice.” and that could be partly true.. but nobody wants to live alone and miserable…we are social beings and we need life partners… and the truth is.. you arent going to attract anyone whilst you sit at home worrying.. keeping the avenues of work & play open invites opportunities.. remember fearing rejection is only a thought.. and we have the power to change our thoughts.. by being accepting, positive and staying true to ourselves.. i believe there is a special someone for all of us.. .

Guys are like girls… they are unlikely to come your way when you don’t look interested… and the thing is, they may mistake women’s action of shying away as “not interested” when she really means “You have to make the first move.” So, get out of your shell and flaunt yourself… and if the guy you like doesn’t look your way, big deal.. it’s not the end of the world.. he probably does not deserve you.

So, girls you should consider being proactive about it….while this may be an interesting experiment for those who never tried it, I advise you to not overdo it… guys still stick to that machismo image and they definitely want some challenge… so play a lil hard to get.. be a lil flirty.. smile and have fun.. if you are friendly and easy to get along with, guys are drawn to you… once they know that you are open to them, they will step up if they are interested with you too. If not, then, you’d still enjoy having conversations with him as a friend.

Look good not just for him but for yourself. Guys adore women who are comfortable in their own skin. He will admire you for your confidence, your personal style and movements as much as his scent, charm and boyish ways sweep you off your feet… so, do a little work and pamper yourself… wear clothes that highlight your best features and complement your skin.. a favourite outfit of mine in the summertime is jeans with an elegant camisole.. and strappy sandals.. just perfect for a relaxing casual outing to the beach or the movies.. if you have someone in mind, know his favorite perfume and wear it.. your scent is your trademark.. a guy is usually going to remember you even weeks later by what you smelt like..

Some girls do research about his hobbies and interest and arm themselves by knowing a little about each. You don’t have to be an expert, just understand what he’s talking about…. if you understand him, you can join into his conversation and state your opinions about it… a guy is impressed with a woman who can listen and respond to what he has to say.

There are some men who prefer intelligent women or someone who could carry a good conversation of just about anything… while it is true that the male species initially gets attracted to physical looks, things might change 360 degrees when she opens her mouth… so, make sure you don’t have him turning away from you once you do… unless if you’re looking for a one night stand then that’s something you don’t have to worry…. but if you’re looking for a potential relationship then, you have to project yourself more than just a beauty.. sound and act self-reliant…. don’t sound like a rip off… let him know that you too can take charge if you want to.

So, you have worked on your looks, your style, your social skills and have tightened a few screws in your brain – you’re almost perfect… now, have fun and be adventurous as you move on everyday…. indulge yourself in activities that make you shine…. get out of your comfort zone and live life to the fullest…. in no time, you will be perceived as an easy going, fun, adventurous, independent woman. Now, that’s a package every guy will die for!

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Miz Helena is an avid writer of lifestyle articles and is co-owner of Abundant World Publications which is part of a vast network of quality and affordable self improvement and lifestyle audios and ebooks

Although countless of books and articles have been devoted to understanding men and women, most of us still struggle through the steps of relating to the opposite sex.

It’s not even rocket science. In fact, men and women social characteristics have been repeatedly defined with mighty simplicity but how come we are still at a loss towards perfecting our relationships? The dilemma lies in the plain existence of the differences between men and women… the same differences disallow them to mesh well.

How much do you know about women?.. I’d like to enumerate a few distinct “womanish” characteristics that men must understand and help relate better with her.

Here are a few intriguing high and lows about a woman:

She is sensitive and she appreciates a man who could lower his guard down for a moment… to her, that spells trust and sincerity.. tell her she looks good.. discover new ways to surprize her.. notice the little things she does.. avoid neing nasty.. theres nothing worst than hurting a womans feelings by being insensitive

She likes to cry. On the contrary, boys were taught not to…. crying for her means a cleansing of the soul, an expression of love, joy, anger and hurt. Sounds paradoxical, doesn’t it? .. that’s why men get confused over outbursts and hysteria…. the best thing for you to do is ask her what she really feels…

She is often indirect and because men are the opposite, this poses a major problem… men often catch themselves reading between the lines… and in certain situations, women really mean “Don’t go” after shes told you to “Go away!”… If this happens, don’t listen to the words you hear, look at her in the eye…. women can barely hide what’s inside.

She is instinctive. It’s their nature… they sense danger before it’s even there… they know you are fooling around when you are… admit it, when women feels all of a sudden insecure, she is so because she has sensed something… so, don’t go away mumbling “What did I do to make her think like that?” because most often that not, its her intuitive nature that has picked it up.

She constantly needs assurance. I wouldn’t call it insecurity.. make her happy by providing her constant approval and appreciation… women find joy in perfecting their relationships while men find it in the success of their career and performance…. once a woman feels inadequate about what she does and begins to question if she makes you content and satisfied, there’s a woman in distress!

She really believes that actions speak louder than words. Your little cheesy ways mean a lot to her… a loving kiss tells her more than even you saying “I love you”… phoning her from work to ask her how she is lets her know you care about her and that you are happy with her being in your life… send her a rose on an ordinary day and she will be exhilarated… and the best thing about it is she’ll pay you back tenfold!

She is all woman.. grrrr. It is in her ways, the way she talks or whispers, her laugh, her moves – all of these things you find irresistible…. she doesn’t even have to do something extra…. It’s just the way she is and the moment you stop noticing these simple things is a time of alarm for both of you!

She likes to talk. It is expression that frees her from life’s poison…. It is normal to hear women talking about things you care less about… but sharing her life with you means she is trusting you and making you a part of hers too.

She needs you to listen. Men can barely put up with this because they are not built to pause and absorb everything that happened in life…. but there are those who have developed a listening ear…. once in a while, I meet some of these men and I see how women are attracted to them just because of that.

Writing this aims to help men clear the confusion about dealing with women…. men could spend a hundred dates and still find to fully understand women difficult… whether we admit it or not, women are a puzzle, a complex being unfathomable despite the many first-hand researches devoted to them… It doesn’t help to teach them to act more simply because she is simply unique…. she wouldnt be a woman without these qualities… It is also the same summation of these characteristics towards complexity that makes her an undeniably awesome species.. get to know her today !!

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Miz Helena is an avid writer of lifestyle articles and is co-owner of Abundant World Publications which is part of a vast network of quality and affordable self improvement audios and ebooks

It’s easy! Add a little spice of determination and commitment into the regimen and things will start to turn around soon enough.

Avoid feeling stressed. Don’t forfeit opportunities for you to exercise. If work drains you out, try an easy workout of two rounds of 15 sit-ups when you wake up and before going to bed. This will flatten your stomach and when done regularly, develop those abs you are envious of. If you need to do more than that, you can always hit the gym. Sweating those toxins out really does wonders not just for your body but also on how you look at life.

Watch your diet. No, we are not aiming for you to becoming anorexic. It’s eating anything you want in moderation and at the right time. There’s no point starving or keeping ice cream away. If you do that, you are in danger of over-indulging when you get a chance.

Have you also heard how getting enough sleep and drinking plenty of water hydrates your skin and makes you look fresh? It’s true! If you wanna try something different and refreshing, why not add Liquid Chlorophll to your filter drinking water?.. natures very own super green food can be found at any good health food shop..

Dress to feel comfortable and to look good. There are people who often excuse themselves from purchasing good looking clothes and say they only dress for themselves. Theres something about treating yourself every now and then that makes us feel great.. it might be as a reward.. or just because you want to.. whatever the reason.. making the effort to look good is a huge confidence booster.

Teach your mind to be happy. Staying positive is the key! Believe in what’s best and not in what’s worrying you. Our mind is very powerful that if you train it to side dish the negative thoughts and focus on the good parts, it eventually will. Successful people have learnt to pay attention to the bright side and weed out negativity. So should you too!

Be kind to yourself. Pat yourself on the shoulder if you need to. Value and never criticize nor insult yourself. Don’t be calling yourself names like stupid or idiot. It is a no-no. These are ego downers and are never helpful to boosting your self esteem. Nobody needs you to be perfect. We are all entitled to mistakes. You are no different if you stumble but you will be when you learn to laugh at yourself and move forward. Throwing self affirming statements while you look at the mirror every morning will actually boost your self confidence and will give you a good kick to start the day off.

Love yourself. I’m not saying be narcissistic. What I’m telling you is I can’t love you back if you don’t love yourself first. At least like your own skin, accept the flaws and live with it. People come in different colors and sizes. It doesn’t matter which shade or shape you are. While looking like Angelina Jolie or Brad Pitt is a bonus, it is not important. You can be imperfect and people will still like you. It’s all in the attitude and knowing that impressions that last are those that make big impact in other people’s lives. What impression of you are you leaving people?

Fall in love with what you do. It’s not healthy to keep minding what others think about you. You are actually happier when you do what you genuinely enjoy and not because it’s what is expected. You should never complain and blame others why you didn’t succeed in your career or relationship. Significant others may influence our decisions but remember that life is what WE make it, not what THEY make it.

Don’t stuff your ego with lies. Interestingly, there are individuals who make up stories to make themselves look bigger to others and even to themselves. Flatter yourself this way and be sure that this could back fire in the long run. Recognize the REAL YOU and show people that. Friends actually know when you lie or not. But showing them you are human and that you have flaws and you don’t mind laughing at it makes you more likeable and sincere. You’ll forget to frown at yourself too.

Don’t be afraid to show who you really are. I see my friends trying to keep it cool but end up repressing their emotions. Letting off steam sometimes is healthy for you and those around you. This applies for all human beings – mean and women alike. Breaking that façade by venting feelings relieves tension and anxiety and lets people understand you more.

Sincerely care about others. Life is not about you and you. It’s a conglomeration of social relationships working towards finding life’s purpose. It’s not man after himself. If I mind you and not just me, I’d feel good about not being selfish and making someone else happy.

Think about all these. Then, if you have the urge to ask yourself why you should start doing this, why not also ask yourself “Why not?”.

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Miz Helena is an avid writer of lifestyle articles and is co-owner of Abundant World Publications which is part of a vast network of quality and affordable self improvement audios and ebooks